Do the choices that you make in your everyday life feel good?

Hello, I’m Jo.Elle and I’m gonna help you to make more Healthy Choices in your daily life.

That implies that until now I’ve made only bad choices, you might say. Who is she to tell me that? You’re right, I don’t know what kind of choices you currently make. But if you are anything like me, there is always room for improvement. And if you would think that your life is perfect as it is, you probably wouldn’t have found your way to my website.

We have to make hundreds of decisions every day. Many of them are not even on a conscious level. Some are difficult and some are easy. But do they make us happy? Are they healthy? And do they give us freedom? Have you ever asked yourself that? Do you believe that you have a right to even ask that question in the first place? Or do you think it’s your duty to please everybody around you, even if that’s on behalf of you own wellbeing?

If so, you might wanna read on.

I already mentioned that there are two kinds of choices. Easy ones (like saying yes to people or deciding what you have for lunch today) and hard ones (like saying no to someone, negotiate, taking a risk and most of all: standing up for yourself).
You might think that it is the easy choices which make us feel good and the hard ones which make us feel uneasy. Obviously! On first sight this might be true. But on the long run it is exactly the opposite.

Saying yes to someone is always more comfortable than saying no. Often we say yes because over the years we have gotten into a habit of saying yes, every time someone asks for a favor. We don’t want to upset the other person; we believe there are certain things that are expected of us or we simply want to make the other person happy. But very often we believe we don’t have a choice.

Do we question the fact that we might not feel comfortable with certain decisions we make? We are taught we get what we get and don’t get upset about it. Isn’t it like that? We believe we have to make a zillion compromises a day if we want to keep our friends, our job and even the love of our relatives and children. Especially those. Everyone around us must be happy in order for us to feel like we deserve our job, the love of our surroundings and that we have the right to exist. Do you know that feeling?

Why do we not put us into the equation before we make a decision, any decision, and ask ourselves: What is ist that I want? Does this feel right for me? Or: What is it that I need? Do we ask ourselves why we say yes when we say yes? Or do we simply make the decision which seems the one that gets us the least resistance?

Are the choices you make really self-determined or do you let others make them for you? Out of fear, out of habit or just because you never questioned that fact that a lot of decisions you make simply don’t make you happy, don’t keep you healthy or don’t give you freedom?

This is not about becoming a self-centered person who only cares about herself and doesn’t give a damn about other people’s needs and wishes. It’s about standing up for oneself and stating our own needs and wishes. Others do it. And we can do it too. Don’t wait and hope that others will be able to guess what you want. You have to ask for it. And I can teach you how.

You might ask yourself: Can I really do that? What if people laugh at me? What if they don’t take me seriously? Or even worse: What if they will get awfully agitated or even angry?

These are the difficult choices we have to make. Standing up for ourselves. Of course, you have to make other difficult choices too, but here it’s about standing up for yourself. These choices will get you headaches at first and make you awfully uncomfortable. But In the beginning, it will be hard to stand up for what you want. In doing so you cannot avoid confrontation any longer and have to face the maybe uncomfortable reaction from whoever you are talking to. But on the long run every NO to another person or to a bad habit is a YES to yourself, to staying or getting healthy and to having more freedom.

That’s what I’m gonna help you with. To find the YESes to yourself. Poor choices will leave you burned-out and being disappointed in live. Learning to make healthy choices for yourself on a daily basis will give you back your strength, your physical health and sanity and bring more joy and freedom in your live. When you feel good about yourself and are happy with the way your life is going, you can also give some of it to others. But now you do it consciously, freely and with self-regard.

So, what kind of choices would you like to make?

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